Dear Karlie:

In times of distress we get confused as to who is responsible for what. If you are not clear on this issue of who is responsible for what, if you go back and forth between blaming him and blaming yourself, you can make a list next of of what was wrong in the marriage, without commentary on who is guilty, just the facts. And I will be glad to explore with you the issue of responsibility.

If you want to look at something else, suggest what it is, and we can take it from there.

anita