Dear Sylvia:

“Why is it that when I logically know I don’t like anything about his personality and he’s broken my heart countless time, I find the news of him  being with someone new so soul crushing?”-

– because you got emotionally attached to him. Emotional attachment has nothing to do with logic. Once it was formed, it will be difficult to separate from the object of attachment. It happens in the animal world, the young attached to their mothers, animals in a social group attached to each other. Nothing to do with logic. It is nature.

“How can I let him go?”- eliminate contact, personal, social media, even mutual friends. And then, make a new male friend, notice I wrote friend, not boyfriend, or lover. Get to know a new young man as a friend. Take it slow, make it fun. Over time, you will get emotionally attached to a better boyfriend candidate, one who is not likely to hurt you.

anita