Dear Nichole:

Your life situation as it is, you can’t make it better by remaining in the same mental situation. You have to get to a better mental situation. The mental situation you are in now is something like this: a hurt, angry child throwing an anger tantrum, being on a strike of sorts, crying out: this is not fair and I am not getting better until (someone) makes it fair!

This mental situation, or state, is not helping you.

I figure you are thinking (aren’t you?)- but I am not choosing this mental state, I can’t help it!

Maybe you can’t. And yet, hope for you is in changing this mental situation.

anita