Dear Anita,

I went through the same thing you did, and I realised I’m doing exactly the same thing that my mother did to me. While I should really be nurturing myself right now. I’m not playing the victim or anything, there are definitely things I did in my relationship that I shouldn’t have done or said, and I take full responsibility of that.

Dear Inky,

I wasn’t surprised, he could leave his own son, he wouldn’t have any problem leaving someone else’s kid. That was the moment that I thought you do not deserve us at all.

Dear Heather,

Funny, you aren’t the first person to tell me that, and the more I read into it, the more I’m convinced that he is. There are two different sides to him, the gentle, caring, vulnerable version that he presents to me and my daughter, and there’s an arrogant, judgemental, often mean, and demeaning towards other people. I often find myself questioning which one he really is.  For some reason, he often purposely deepens his voice when he talks to strangers or new people, but he has a different voice tone with us. He likes expensive things with big brands, and thinks anything less is embarrassing. He’s also not very committed to bills, and financial obligations. I don’t know if it’s an age thing, or a problem with being responsible.

oh and the other funny thing is, for a while I thought there was something wrong with me, that I’m the narcissist.