Aster,

I like the therapist Dr. Joy Browne’s recommendation of not dating one year after the divorce papers are signed.  Separation does not count.  I truly believe that we need that year to be on our own emotionally and all other aspects, i.e. our own place, our own friends, etc.

Re-read your posting and see if you really think “he has been good to me”  and that being without him would be something you would regret.  Going down on his knees and grabbing your legs are not the actions of a healthy man.

Is he out of your house?  Or are you having second thoughts?  Him going to you at work can be constituted as harassment so tell him that and threaten to go to HR.  If you really want to move on and get back to that place of being happy without the drama then cut him off.

Mark