Hi K,

Thank you for your kindness.

We all make choices hundreds of times every day.  What to eat, what to wear, what time to get up, who to see, who to phone, which room to clean and so on.  There is little point in regretting our choices – we don’t know what would have happened if we had made a different choice.  Ultimately, the path we go down through our choices is a path of learning.  Always.  The more difficult the path, the more opportunity there is to learn.  Following the ‘path of least resistance’ is going with the flow, flowing with life.  Air flows through us, water flows through us, fire flows through us, earth flows through us.  “Air my body, fire my spirit, earth my body, water my blood.”  I sometimes use this as a way of bringing me back into balance, chanting it to myself when I’m out walking.

With regard to anger, this arises when someone is behaving in a way that we don’t expect them to.  You are already expressing this when you shout, scream and cry.  I think your answer lies in forgiving those around you that have hurt you.  If you do sit with your anger, sit with forgiveness as well.  I can’t stress strongly enough that this is for your benefit.  Sustained anger is very damaging to your health.

You wrote to Mark that you cry when you talk about your children yet in an earlier post you said you have no children.  Also, are you distant from your fiance?

Peggy