Dear K:

You asked me: “Can you provide me with advice to move past these childhood hurts?”-

My advice then:

1. Be patient, I figure it will take you (I am guessing) good five yeas of hard work to do that with progress all along the way, though not in a linear way, meaning you will feel better and worse along the way.

2. I think that you are in contact with your parents, used to live with them not long ago (?), may do so again, definitely visit with them: if they still invalidate your experience, if they never acknowledged it was wrong of them to  imprison you, if they did not ask for your forgiveness and offered to make amends, such as offering to pay for quality psychotherapy for you, for a period of over a year, about two sessions per week- then your contact with them will interfere with your healing. Every time you spend time with them, you keep your “Feeling off” in place.

3. I don’t know the nature of your relationship with your boyfriend, if it is a healthy relationship, you can use it in your healing process. If it is not that healthy, healing the relationship will be part of your individual healing.

Let me know what you think of my advice so far, if you will, and we can go from there.

anita