Dear Alecsee:

You wrote yesterday regarding the current woman in your life: “Up until 2 weeks ago, everything was fine, until an argument that could have been avoided on my end if I had not had a small emotional outburst”.

Five months ago you wrote regarding an ex girlfriend: “I started getting constantly mad at her a lot and taking it out on her…she sees me as this angry guy .. the emotional outbursts are when I can’t take it and I start being aggressive.. Just saying stuff that makes her put her defenses up and causes argument”-

Reads to me that you need to pay attention to your anger and how you express your anger. If you learn to control your behavior so that you don’t explode and argue- you will have a better chance at having a healthy love relationship. There are books on managing anger, there are anger-management classes you can take, and you can attend psychotherapy for that purpose.

anita