Dear leelee:

Like Mark stated so well, paraphrased: it doesn’t matter who is rushing a relationship, the other person should slow it down. Don’t rush a man especially if he is rushing himself, that is a double-rush!

And like Mark stated perfectly, “The two words that have high level of misinterpretation are ‘friends’ and ‘love’. People rarely know what that means in practice and usually don’t have the same idea which one means”-

-a woman says to a man on the first week of dating: I love you. Maybe she means: You look like an okay guy and I want to get married and fast, will you marry me, please!… Maybe that is all she means. A man says to a woman on the second week of dating: be my girlfriend. Maybe he means: I really like you! Maybe he means be-my-girlfriend for a short time, nothing serious.

A man or a woman, after breaking up, often says: let’s be friends. What that often means is: don’t be angry with me. That is all. And the friendship they mean consists of texting or talking on the phone for another week or two after the breakup.

Better ask the person saying this or that, what do you mean by this.. or that.

Maybe this man suggested to be friends with you because he wants to get to know you better. In that case, pay attention to what he communicated to you: “There is no perfect guy or perfect girl… people nowadays, especially girls depict this perfect guy or person who should just sweep them off their feet and be this prince charming. This isn’t real and it’s selfish… I can’t be the perfect guy you want so desperately”-

He told you that he is not the perfect guy that you want, that he doesn’t like it that you want him to be a perfect guy, it is too much pressure for him and it is not fair to him because no guy is the perfect guy, no person is perfect. Take in what he said and consider it- this is what a true friend does: listen and consider what a friend says.

anita