Dear Lindsey:

I had a pretty good 3 day weekend, thank you. I was wondering during the weekend, at  one point about  what you were doing. There were some technical difficulties in the website and I wondered if you tried to log in but couldn’t.

Well, K should arrive to work in about 20 minutes, maybe less. And he is still sitting so close to where you are that you will be able to hear what he is saying on the  phone and otherwise, correct?

Well, it is an opportunity for you to practice Mindfulness, meaning: notice how you feel when he comes in and throughout the day, when you hear him talk to female co workers: heart racing a bit? Body temperature feels higher/ perspiring maybe, breathing faster or shallow? Pay attention and say the word calm (or silence, whatever word suits you) to yourself, forming the intent to calm yourself down right there-and-then, breathe deeper, slower, focus on what you are doing, typing or whatever  it is. Notice thoughts rushing, like those ants you mentioned, building negative thoughts on top of negative thoughts, and again,  say calm, and slow down your thinking brain, focus on the here-and-now, place your hand on the desk and focus on how it feels to touch the desk. That will ground you. Let me know how it goes, will you?

anita