Dear Alexandria:

Because you were broken up at the time I don’t think he owed you any information about how he spent his time while not being in contact with you, following a breakup (especially it being a breakup that you initiated).

In other words, he had the right to have sex with another woman. The only sex- related obligation he had was to not get another woman pregnant, and to not catch/ pass on an STD to anyone else.

It would have been wise of him to not tell you anything at all, including the questionable “he came to while it happened”.

I am thinking that maybe you pressured him so much (and unfairly so) to tell him what happened during the breakup, that he lost his sensible thinking, under pressure, panicked,and told you part-of what happened.

Which leads me back to your own words from Oct last year: “I do think I am putting too much pressure on him in general expecting him to say the right things all the time and never upset me, so I will work on that”.

anita