Dear Anita,

Thank you for writing. I am not sure about the “aggression” part – I was open to him and said I expected more, at times with a blaming and hurt tone, which started an argument and usually made him aggressive. I definitely was the one who expected more and started these arguments. But I was also very open about it and he knew I was dealing with it constantly (going to therapy etc). Somehow, it felt for me that he was being very strict – the moment I complained a little bit, sent him over the edge and made him very angry. So i was also living in a constant fear “I must not complain”, but sometimes I still did, it just felt so logical to let him know my feelings.

I don’t know if this killed his feelings and desire to have a future with me. Just a month before he very openly and sincerely expressed his feelings for me, with words and actions, and I am not sure if they disappear so fast or if he wasn’t quite sure of them while expressing them. I am also not sure why he planned moving in together and left me just after couple of weeks. All of it makes me hopeful that there is still a chance for us, but I am terrified to contact him and find out that for him it is definitely over.

To Inky: Yes, family is my goal, he knew it and it was mutual.