Dear Lara:

It makes sense that you “might be a bit paranoid” regarding WhatsApp and/ or going to the library so to keep this communication here away from your personal computer. It makes sense tome because of what you shared last year I think it was: “my mother.. always assuming the worst of people”. So you too assume that people will try to hurt you if they (whomever they may be) find out that you are posting here.

You wrote in your recent post to me: “Other children would have developed better in this environment, my siblings certainly did”- I claim the following: no child experiencing the same childhood as you did, would be less anxious, or less lonely as you have become.

Your siblings had a bit of a different childhood (time of birth, changing circumstances over time). What makes siblings seem so different even though all  grew up in the same household is that they take different roles (they adjust to the household in different ways)- the submissive role, the rebel, the introvert, the extrovert, but all siblings in an abusive or dysfunctional household suffer.

The suffering of different siblings appear differently and their function in any one particular area of life is often better than that of another sibling. For example: a sibling may be successful in the career area but dysfunctional in the relationship area.

anita