Dear Maria:

If your example is an interaction that happened many times before, then in the context of repetition, I can understand his frustration. Of course his aggressive behavior is wrong- he shouldn’t have said the F word to you and he does sound rude.

Problem is if you nag a person again and again, meaning, if you repeatedly complained to him that he didn’t call you enough and then interrogate him: why didn’t he call you, and when he answers you, you continue the interrogation: but you had the time, you were on a break etc., then the recipient of the nagging will get tired of it and respond angrily sooner or later.

Do you think this is what happened, that you nagged him repeatedly?

anita