Dear S:

Never has the word celebrity associated with me, except in my long ago fantasy life. Thank you for making my fantasy a reality today in the context of your most recent post!

I don’t think there is any use in talking to his mother but you can try, it won’t hurt. It may make you feel worse when she (as I suspect) will not  change her mind as a result, but  if you can endure the feelings that you will experience when (again, as I suspect) she rejects you, talk  to her. Maybe she will at least mention her reason, but then she may lie.

Her reason for rejecting you as a possible wife for her son can be one  or a combination of many reasons. Maybe she wants him to study in the U.S while not distracted by a girlfriend in India (or elsewhere). Maybe it is the green hair you used to have. Maybe it  is your family’s financial or social status/ caste, maybe she believes in astrology and you are the .. wrong sign. Maybe she wants to be the.. only woman in her son’s life. Maybe the reason is not that she thinks that you are a “crazy lady”- maybe the reason is that she is a crazy lady.

“Should I give him a few more days to think with an open mind”?- no, no use, because he is not the one who is doing the thinking, more precisely- the choosing. It is his mother that is doing the thinking and choosing for him.

anita