Dear Luke:

In addition to Grenada’s excellent input to you, I suggest you use your thread here so to express your thoughts and feelings as part of your attempt to “move on and Let go”-

– part of moving on is accepting what happened, relaxing into the reality of what happened.

What happened to you- your wife coming out as a lesbian and breaking up with you is not the kind of reality that you can change. You can’t change her sexual orientation, even though she declared it later in life, after getting married with you, after being married for five years, after moving across the world and so forth.

There is nothing you can do about it. So you have to accept it, with some calm. Sort of, surrender to the reality which you cannot change, no longer fighting against it inside yourself.

Do you think you can do  that and did therapy help you in any way, so far?

anita