Hi Anita

In regards to the boyfriend example- I was touching him tenderly, then felt extreme feelings of rage. Consciously I realised the rage was coming from a feeling I had that he did not touch me in the same way or that the encounter was one sided, perhaps he did not feel for me the way I felt for him. That fear led to rage. You made the parallel of this experience with how I might have felt with my mother at one point…

My question is …. how to redirect that rage towards my mother in that moment in time. And so to truly not lash out? Because even by supressing my rage, it becomes apparent in my body language/demeanour that I am upset by something. I hope that makes more sense.