Dear cali sister:

It doesn’t read to me like a good idea that you will go no-contact from your parents today or anytime soon.

Let’s look at what you wrote in your original post regarding your parents: “I have adjusted my boundaries extremely. This is all a new adjustment for me… I am slowly taking it step by step to do what is healthiest for me. So far, I have been succeeding“-

– what brought about your success has been taking it slowly, step by step. Because the adjustment you made regarding your parents is new, it is too soon at this point to cut all contact with them. Continue with your step by step (and breaks between steps), slow healing.

Only the day before yesterday you wrote: “I do not feel ready to go no contact”- so not yet.

You wrote Tues: “If I remember correctly, I think that you think the only way out is no contact”- it is not urgent at all in your case because you live independently of them and your contact with them is way less than ever before. The idea of cutting contact with them significantly increased your distress, so better not consider it anytime in the near future. What do you think???

anita