Velora-

I think that was my point, really. You can’t possibly understand the pain she is going through, but yet you were placing expectations on her on how she should have handled her grief and the situation. Right I can’t begin to understand, but the only way I can understand is by her sharing why she is handling it this way. The dialogue has to happen, I would think I would be the one who would most understand our current situation. I guess I didn’t realize I was putting an expectation on how she should be dealing with things; I was just going off of past precedent as to how we have operated. Obviously this is a different animal. And yes, I guess I am a little upset that we can’t communicate and that we can’t do this together and how my wife is handling things. I’m sure she is frustrated with me as well. I’m not saying my way or her way is the correct way in any shape or form. No one can tell another how to grieve, I get that. I have never felt so distant from her. I am defiantly no perfect man, that is apparent here. But I have nowhere else to turn, I’m broken, alone, empty, sad and apparently she is comfortable doing this on her own, I am not comfortable or ok doing this on my own. I just feel that we should have some semblance of doing some grieving together, am I wrong in wanting that?

Thanks for your insight, it defiantly gives a different perspective.