Valora-

I’m really not looking for much support, I’m just looking for ANY support. I mentioned before that I don’t have many close friends to talk to about this and my mother who is very supportive, is very limiting in her perspective in this situation. And although comforting as she is, it still doesn’t replace the need for your (a) partner.  I guess that’s why I it was so easy to fall into this affair, and the least bit of affection was very attractive to me. Since it had been so long since there had been any form of intimacy with my wife (and I’m not just talking about sex). Emotional intimacy/connection is really what has been missing and the physical aspect was just a by product in the affair. The connection with my wife had been virtually non-existent for years, our relationship really isn’t as deep as I thought it was, especially if we can’t communicate on how to maintain our relationship without the added tragedy. I honestly want to work things through, but it is hard to see what that dynamic might be.

I am ashamed of the affair, as I am really not that type of person. I respect the person I had the affair with greatly and would most likely date a person such as herself if I were single, but I feel like the whole situation has mired anything that I could potentially have with her in the future,  if any such opportunity presented itself. As for my wife, I know my actions don’t say it, but I do respect her, I just wish that it was easier to communicate with her on just a little deeper level, especially now. As for Counseling it’s ok and helps get my thoughts organized and in prospective and I feel has been constructive, I plan on continuing and hopefully when the time comes I can include my wife for that. I really don’t want to divorce for the kids sake, but I don’t know if that is being true to myself or the family. Thanks for all your suggestions