Every relationship will trigger you.

Anxious Attachment needs development . Avoidant Attachment really needs development.

It’s about understanding how we grew up & how our parents cared or didn’t care for us, this is how it usually reflects in our relationships.

People with avoidant Attachment learn to be independent.

People with Anxious learn codependency.

Secure relationships are interdependent.

Anxious people need a lot of love & assurance. Ask your partner what they need. Meet the need. Understand as a person who’s avoidant, it may not always make sense or it may scare you- as intimacy scares avoidants.

If you really want it to work I suggest you buy two books, Attached by Amir Levine. One for you one for him.