Dear Natalija:

You are welcome. I re-read your original post and noticed something I didn’t notice before:

You wrote about your boyfriend and his (living like roommates) wife: “They had a bit rough separation and she hurt him badly… he is still hurt… he came to the conclusion it probably has something to do with how hurt and rejected he was at this last breakup”-

– that last breakup is living with him in the same apartment. How can he possibly recover from being “hurt.. badly” if the one who hurt him is living in the same apartment as he does, being present there every day and night.

I didn’t connect before that the Hurt of “this last breakup” is Living-with-him.

Of course he can’t recover from a live-in breakup!

I’d say, not a good situation for him or for the kids, because they have a very hurt father day after day and who knows the emotional trouble their mother is in.

anita