Dear Peck:

Practical advice, for her and for you:

1. Dim lights are an excellent age-reduction technique, especially when not fully dressed.

2. When a person’s physique is not that attractive (for as long as it is not terribly unattractive), focus on what feels good. When a person is stimulated a certain way, and finds pleasure in it, it really doesn’t matter who does the stimulating.

3. No more talking about it with her- both of you clean and smelling good,  a glass of wine or favorite drink to start, appropriate music, dim lights… well, that is all I have in  mind. You take it from there.

anita