Dear Peck:

If I understand correctly, you don’t want to be noticed (any more) for being a nice guy or a good guy, for your character. You want to be noticed for your body, for looking hot, or sexy. You want to be desired for your body- to be appreciated and desired for your flesh, so to speak.

Very different from what it is for a lot of women- having been desired for their flesh so often, throughout youth, being wanted for sexual purposes alone, so often and wanting desperately to be seen for their minds and hearts.

A woman with that kind of experience may not understand and even reject the idea of wanting a man for his body, it is like doing to another what she hated being done to herself.

anita