Dear cali sister:

Well, it is time, in this “New and improved.. journey, rebirth, a new world”, (one week after the huge step of No Contact- Congratulations for one week!), that you will be listened to. It is time that your life feels important to you and is treated as important by at least one other person, and hopefully, by a few people.

(Most people are too busy most of the time with their lives to consider others’ lives important).

Your thread which you initiated and chose the title, is your thread, not your sister’s. And this means that here I do not attend to her needs, her motivations, her life, but to you- your needs, your motivations, your life.

Problem when we decide to “rebirth” and live in a “new world” is our relationships with family members, such as your sister. Because the dynamics of the relationship were established in.. the old world.

So to live in a new world, you need relationships with new people. Maintain your relationship with your sister, but your rebirth, that cannot happen in the context of your relationship with her. New people are people with whom you can change your behavior of past and they will not make it difficult for you by maintaining a pre-established dynamic from an old world.

Makes sense?

anita