Dear cali sister:

You wrote yesterday about your father: “What I remember most about him is- his clothes, smell, and way of speaking”- these things that you remember most about him are the things that gave you that euphoric feeling of safety long ago, those moments of heavenly feeling of I-am-safe. This is the kind of feeling children have to have from time to time, so to grow up into adulthood.

As such memories occur to you about your father, remember- his smell, his clothes, his mannerism, these things never mean real safety for you- your childhood was not safe, not heavenly at all, far from it.

As you enter your second week of no-contact, I want to tell you this: you owe nothing-to-nobody. You  owe nothing to your mother, nothing to your father, nothing to your sister, nothing to me, nothing to anyone.

This is your life to live, your choices to make, this is your turn to experience your life with you in the center.

Post here if and when you want to. Be free in any and every way that is available to you.

anita