Dear Charly:

You wrote earlier that you “do not want to be used for a convenient situation”- if you mean that he is using you so to have a place to live and not go through the trouble of looking for a place of his own, maybe an extra expense involved in him living away from you- then I see your point. It would be really nice if you were clear about his motivation in staying in your place. If you were clear about why he gets upset about sleeping not in your bed although there is “no intimacy or sex coming from him”.

If you were clear you wouldn’t be confused or conflicted. It is way better to experience clarity instead of conflict and confusion.

When you asked him about his motivations, what did he say??

anita