Hi Jim,

When you say she had domestic abuse issues in her last relationship due to cheating, who was the abuser and who was the cheater?

Everyone has skeletons. Some have addiction issues, some mental health issues, some infidelity issues, some abuse issues, some family of origin issues, etc. I consider myself a nonjudgmental person who believes in second chances but the person you are describing has all of the issues I listed. A deal-breaker for me would be if 1) the person had ever been emotionally or physically abusive to another person or 2) the person cheated.

But that’s just me.

So you have to examine what it is you’re talking yourself into here. Don’t overlook big red flags because you’re frustrated that your life isn’t where your think it should be at age 33. If you do, you run the risk of finding yourself in a situation of meeting the woman of your dreams say 5 years from now when you are married to someone you settled for, with one kid in diapers and another on the way.

B