Hi Anita,

The problem with the therapy is she is the only one who specializes in trauma in my insurance network. There are other ones, but they are $180/session, I would be paying OOP.

Re: my mother. I am very low contact with her. I don’t call her, I don’t take her calls and I don’t respond to her texts. My son and I are flying to my hometown for Thanksgiving next week and I am kind of dreading it, because my mother will be around. I have other family members I’d like to see, but my mother will be there, too. I just “grey rock” around her. I give binary answers, I don’t ask reciprocal questions and I cut the conversation off if I feel like she’s trying to get a rise out of me. It is so much better than the way we used to spend holidays with her. She would create these chaotic, dramatic scenes before dinner and storm out, ruining everyone’s holiday. It’s still exhausting to be around her, because my guard is always up, but much preferable to her dramatic nonsense. I’ve booked a hotel for my son and me, so we’ll have our own physical and mental space.

But I can start a thread to discuss abusive mothers, if you wish. 🙂