Dear Jojo56:

“Any thoughts on how I get back to a place where I can.. trust my own judgment again?”

Let’s look at your current judgment of this man, your evaluation of him, that is: “He was a really good man”-

– can it be that a good man goes to the grocery store with you, holding your hand, buying you flowers, then going with you to your house (where he has been living part time for 2.5 years while preparing his own house for sale), tells you that he doesn’t “want this anymore”, puts his things in his car, and  drives away?

Or is it possible that he used you for a house to stay in, rent free perhaps, while preparing to sell his house?

(I will soon be away from the computer for a few hours).

anita