Dear Jojo56:

“Why is it so hard to think badly of someone who you loved and trusted?”-because it hurts to be fully aware that our trust was betrayed. It felt so  good at the time, to believe a man is good and loving and we want to hold on to that good feeling, even after he is no longer there.

“And how to  trust my own judgment again since I truly believe him to be a good man when clearly he wasn’t if he was using me?”- be willing to feel badly for a while, as you become aware of the fact that he did  use you. With that awareness and hurt, maybe anger as well, you will be mentally able to see the next man as he is, and not as you wish him to be.

Does that make sense to you?

anita