Dear Princess123:

I am glad we agree on this: “in no case I should accept any abuse/ violation physically, verbally or sexually”.

Regarding your question: after you travelled with a male friend, and after your boyfriend got angry and gave you the silent treatment, should you have done “something else to save my relationship rather than walking away”? – no, because this relationship had a very small chance of success, being that his parents wouldn’t have agreed that he marries you because the two of you are of different castes and because he told you that he will not defy them.

“Isn’t silent treatment and ignoring a person kind of abuse or control?”- if every time a man gets angry at the woman (or the other way around) and gives her the silent treatment as punishment, then yes, it is abusive. But if the man ignores the woman because he is angry and feels that if he talks to the woman, there will be an argument, and he wants to avoid an argument, then it is not abusive.

I don’t think you should contact this man. In summary: I think that you should not spend time with any male friend when you are in a relationship with a boyfriend. I think you must not receive abuse of any kind from a man, nor abuse the man in any way. I think you should not argue with a man, and instead,  negotiate calmly the terms of the relationship with him, so that everything is clear, fair and agreed to by both parties to the relationship.

anita