Dear Yarina:

Here is a comparison between two men you met online. I wonder if you have thoughts about it:

In February this year you complained about another guy you met online: “my boundaries were crossed. Also I don’t like that he wants to take a lead in our relationship as I feel pressure from his side. I am afraid that these are signs that he will be possessive and controlling further in the relationship”.

Fast forward nine months, and this guy is the opposite, he is “reserved and shy”, (not “possessive and controlling” like the other guy seemed to be), and did not take the lead like the other guy, you were the one to take the lead (“I was doing all the work”).

anita