Dear Yarina:

“I think I am more anxious than angry”- fear does precede anger: right before anger, there is fear.

What happens for all of us is that we keep re-living our childhood, if our childhood was difficult, until and if we work hard and long to heal from it, best we can.

If this guy was all attentive, romantic and so forth, you’d still get anxious and maybe angry, because it is not about the man, really, it is about the childhood you keep re-living. I know this about you because I operate this way and so do all humans.

Did you ever attend psychotherapy?

* Notice the title of your thread: “Emotionally unavailable man” and we got to the heart of the matter: an emotionally unavailable parent.

anita