Dear curiousknowledgeseeker:

No, I don’t think the message was too much. Next time she sends you a gift, send her a short thank you message again, this time send it  on time, so there will be no apology in the message for not having said thank you to her earlier. Send her something like: thank you for the lovely gift. I hope you have a good summer”, something like that.

You need as much autonomy in your own home as possible. You need to have a say as to who gets to be there! It is enough that you don’t like your sister in law so to decide to not have her in your home.

anita