Hi True,

I know this post is from ages ago, but please PLEASE respond. I am so conflicted. Reading your post has honestly made me cry. My first love contacted me less than a week ago reaching out and wanting to meet up. We broke up when I was seventeen and it’s been five years! Not 26, but still a long time I feel like! It made my heart skip a beat. But I’m in a wonderful, three year relationship that I would never want to jeopardize, but this man…I loved him the moment I saw him. I loved him all four years of high school until we finally got together. We were together for a year and a half before something stupid drove us apart. I’ve always wondered…those “what ifs” you mentioned. And now he’s here, reaching out to me, wanting to talk to me. Apparently he was ENGAGED and they broke up last week (which he conveniently left out–I found that out from a mutual friend!!). I’m afraid if I see him again I’ll still have those burning feelings for him that I had back then. He was such a good guy, even though we were just teenagers, it was such a deep and true love.

What do I do?!?! Help!!!! I feel like no one understands this problem…he’s not just an ex, he’s THE ex, the one that got away, the one I was supposed to spend my life with…

Thank you so much for posting this and making me feel less alone!! I’m not a cheater, but him reaching out to me has literally got me wanting to abandon all morals. I desperately need guidance.

Miss Brightside