Dear PikeMan:

“Basically I was selfish”- I agree, I see it now, yes, you were selfish, with a touch of arrogance. I didn’t see that before because I took you at your word when you wrote in your original post: “I am a faithful, hardworking, honest, loyal man who loves his wife very much”-

– well, not hardworking– you didn’t help your wife with the house and chores even though she too has a full time job, not that loyal– you did flirt and practice your charm with other women, and definitely not  loving–  you didn’t help her with the house and the kids, you asked her to do sexual things that you knew made her feel uncomfortable, and most recently you told her that she “will be nothing more than a woman who I loved and had kids with.. I will not care about you”, and so forth.. not loving!

Well, PikeMan- don’t say that you are “faithful, hardworking, honest, loyal man who  loves his wife very much”, be these things in action, and maybe she will change her mind.

anita