Dear Luke:

You wrote about your father: “He’s always been pretty overbearing.  I’ve always just receded to keep the peace and just do whatever he wanted for the most part“-

-having read your previous threads, this is how you operated with  your now estranged wife, with her too, you did whatever she wanted for the most part. She wanted to party without you into the night and early morning, proceeding from clubs to people’s apartments, to continue drinking and dancing and whatnot, and you went with it, you agreed to this kind of behavior.

It is most important that you no longer do or go along with whatever someone else wants to do. It is time to set strict boundaries with your father, to not give in to  him anymore. Start there and expands your assertive, proactive behavior with everyone else in your life.

anita