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Dear Hennessy:
I didn’t read anything that suggests to me that it cannot work between the two of you. If indeed he is trustworthy (“I trust him enough to know he wouldn’t do me wrong”), it is a huge factor why a relationship with him can work.
If his focus on modeling (as I understand it to be) is about his passion for fashion, form and movement, traveling, making money- I don’t see anything wrong with that.
A very extroverted man with a very introverted woman (“Not an awkward introversion, more of closed off”)- I don’t see a problem with that either.
For a relationship to work well, there needs to be Trust: the two people worthy of each other’s trust and trusting each other. There needs to be a compatibility of Values: do the two of you value monogamy, having an intimate relationship with only one partner. Then there is Lifestyle, is there a fit; let’s say you trust him, the two of you value monogamy, but his lifestyle includes going to bars with his guy friends. After some drinking he is likely to be impulsive and forget all about trust and values, and end up together with a woman he meets there.
I hope you can talk with him about these things and get to know him over time in different contexts (his/your friends, his/your family maybe, his/your work context). After knowing each other well enough, then consider a relationship with him, fewer chances of getting hurt this way.
anita