Dear Daniel:

Welcome back, good to read from you again!

I hope you talk again with the guy you talked with at the party last night, he sounds compatible with you and I think that the input he gave you was intelligent and valuable: “he told me that I should tell myself that she may have kissed that guy because she was drunk… that I should be patient and try to get a date with her”.

You wrote that he is a bit like you, “An introvert who struggles to live in a world that seems to be made for extroverts”- two introverts can help each other do better in a world that is made for extroverts.

He already helped you last night: “Talking felt like lifting a heavy load from my heart. I didn’t want to cry anymore”- it helps a whole lot to express yourself to someone who listens and understands, and who gives you valuable input. The more of these exchanges that you have, the less lonely and depressed you will be, and the more motivated you will be in your studies and in your social life. These kinds of exchanges are like cold wind touching your face on a walk outdoors(after being indoors for too long).

Regarding D, the young woman you are interested in- be brave. Be kind and direct with her and express to her your intent, to get to know her better, to consider a romantic relationship. She may say yes, she may say no, and she may say.. nothing at all, or maybe, or whatever it is that she may say.

But bravery is an attractive feature in men, for most women. And you are already brave. Not fearless, of course, but brave. You can do that. If she doesn’t say Yes, you will survive it and take it from there.

What do you think/ feel about what I wrote here?

anita