Dear Sofioula:

July 9 this year, you wrote: “I’ve been ‘sober’ from my ex consistently now.. I feel I was born recently. It literally feels I’m alive, that I just landed on this place and body… It’s plain reality and it feels so damn good!!!.. negative emotions don’t shake you, rather they are shaping you”.

Less than six months later, this Christmas Day, I believe it is the anniversary of your relationship, those negative emotions are shaking you today.

Those emotions shook you before, you recovered and today, they are shaking you again. Don’t be alarmed. It is the shaking of an aftershock. It’s not the original earthquake. It will not last as long as the original. Calm down, take deep breaths, stop the panic, and you will see: you will feel better.

It is the anniversary of the relationship, isn’t it?

anita