Dear DoUremember:

It reads to me that if you are able and willing to accept him as a boyfriend/husband whose time, hard work and resources go first to his parents/ his family of origin, and never complain about it, then he will have you as his girlfriend or wife.

His interest in you reads sincere to me and your rational, sensible and honest writing leads me to believe that he is indeed, as you described: “sweet, generous, responsible, genuine and caring, hard worker and .. extremely funny”. Unfortunately he is also overly-responsible to his parents who take advantage of  him.

Question is, is do you want this kind of life: watching your husband work hard so many, long hours, day after day, year after year,  for his family of origin, not for you, but for them?

anita