Thank you Anita for your reply. You are very kind to take time to respond with such consideration.

I completely agree with your suggestions, i have actually been painting a lot to help my mind. I think my concern more is I just want the thoughts and feelings to completely go, but they never do. Sometimes they are intense like they are at the moment and sometimes they are dulled down, but they never disappear. I find myself wondering if he has found a girlfriend, might he still feel the same etc. I have even gone to write a message and then deleted it as I ask myself what will this achieve. I’m not sure how to get rid of the feelings or will I just always have to cope with them knowing that i’m making a better decision to stay put.