I just briefly read your story Whelan and I know that you are sad. I went through a hard breakup last year but once you are out of the gray clouds you will be so thankful that you were strong enough to move past this person. You will read what you wrote here and say to yourself what was I thinking!

I have been in my share of toxic relationships in my life. I actually wasted my 20’s and early 30’s in them. I wished that I was strong enough to leave sooner and felt regret that I stayed but no matter the time span I believe that these obstacles make us stronger and are necessary to prepare us future situations in life.

Someone who does not invite you out with friends doesn’t take your relationship seriously or see you in their future. What are a relationship without love, trust, and companionship? He doesn’t want to be with you outside the home seems like a giant problem for me. He has created three times, maybe he doesn’t want you around so he can cheat again and you don’t need that. You are better than that.

I know what it is like to be on the inside and feeling sad grasping at the good, but from an outside point of view, it’s hard to fathom why you would want to be with this man. Be strong and you should prevail and find someone who treats you kind, involves you in his life, and makes you feel good. It took me a lot longer than I thought it would in my life but I did. Just be patient and try not to waste time on things that constantly make you feel bad. Life is too short for that! I know easier said than done.

You will get past this. Keeping a breakup journal really helped me.