Dear Emma:

When you do talk to your partner about sex, never ever mention another man in this context, telling him anything at all about how sex was with other men. Communicate to him all that you need to communicate with no reference at all to any other man, especially not the one you had the affair with.

I don’t think you intended to do what I am suggesting that you don’t, but I am brining it up just in case, you get carried away somehow in conversation and say something that once said, cannot be unsaid.

Gently tell him what you need, when the two of you are calm enough. Be willing to teach him, show him, give him positive feedback when he does well and take it from there!

anita