Dear Felix:

“I can’t think positively regarding this and keep blaming god for the injustice that happened”- I don’t think positively about things that are negative. If it’s negative then it’s negative.

There is very little equality and justice in the world and there is no god taking notes, no complaint box, or a suggestion box where you can place put your complaint and have god review it. Imagine a god is taking a piece of paper from that box, reads it and figures: oh, I didn’t know Felix was unhappy with his height.. let’s see.. 5’5” is too short for a  man, yes, I agree… yes, I made a mistake. Okay, five inches are coming your way, Felix! Next thing you know you get up from bed the next morning and you are 5’10”-

– this will never happen.

So there you are, 5’5”. Don’t think positively and don’t think negatively. Think realistically: what can I do? All you can do is what you have been doing: wearing certain sandals or shoes, a certain fashion of clothes, that’s all.

Next, look at other aspects of your life: the chewing and eating- there is something you can do about that, slowly and gradually, preferably with a professional’s help. So  do it and your life will be better for it.

Next, dating, a love relationship, if you care so much about being taller than the woman, then seek a shorter women. There are plenty of women who are about 5′, five inches shorter than you. You are self conscious about the way you eat- well, you’ll be working on it, but you have the option of choosing a woman who is also self conscious about something regarding her looks or habits. Maybe her hair is thin, maybe she has a facial tic. I had plenty of facial tics and still have some tics, so… what?

You are not perfect and there are plenty of imperfect women out there, choose one! If you are more accepting of your imperfections, you will  be more accepting of a woman’s imperfections. You will feel so much better about your imperfections once a woman loves you anyway, and she will feel so much better about her imperfections when you love her anyway!

anita