Dear Janine:

I am connecting your new thread to your previous one and to my own life experience at your age.

In your previous thread you wrote that you are repulsed by your mother. When I read it I figured (and expressed to you there) that a child is never repulsed by her mother before her mother rejects the child first, and repeatedly.

This guy, you felt rejected by him and by his friends, but what if you rejected them first but didn’t notice, maybe by your facial/ body language. Maybe you figured early on that he rejected you while he simply didn’t notice you, and from that point, you felt rejected, hurt,  maybe angry and your hurt (and maybe anger) showed in your facial and body language.

When I was your age, the moment a person ignored me, I jumped to the conclusion that the person thought I was not worthy of positive attention, and so although I craved attention, I looked away, was not involved in conversations, did not smile at the person (and friends of that person), and maybe I looked angry. So my expressions and behaviors were not inviting. I probably looked like I was not interested in the people I believed rejected me first.

Can this be a possibility regarding what happened with this young man and his friends?

anita