Dear noname:

You are welcome, good to read from you this morning. Congratulations for being mindful a the bar last Friday night, well done!

“The question I’m stuck on now is the purpose of my grief?… what is the grief doing for me?”-

– I think that it is doing nothing for you. You’ve been in a grief mode for a long, long time and I am not aware that it led you to a better place. I think that a better place to look at, for progress, is this word that I italicized: “anger and disappointment towards my parents still resides in me”.

The anger at them is what keeps you stuck, reads to me. But I never suggest to anyone to.. delete anger, to suppress it, to void it with convenient thinking (e.x., the frequent they-did-their-best) or to meditate it away, or any such thing. Anger has to be respected for the valid message in it. I think that we keep experiencing the same anger until it is heard for its message.

You are welcome to tell me more about your anger.

anita