Dear noname:

I agree: your sister will have to come to grips with who her parents are; no benefit to you protecting her from the reality of who they are. I suggest: withdraw yourself from trying to help your sister with her emotional problems because I think it is keeping you stuck and it is not helping her. You can’t possibly be her psychotherapist, you severely lack the objectivity required. (I remember my therapist of 2011-13 telling me that he couldn’t possibly have his own sister as a patient because he lacked the objectivity required).

Let her interact with her parents however she wishes to and do not get involved. Choose if and where, when and how you interact with them. keep your sister out of it.

So, if you want to talk here more about your anger, don’t tell me that you are angry at your father for how he treats your sister, tell me about your anger at him for how he has treated you. Make it personal, because it is. Same with your mother. If and when you want to, of course.

anita