Hi Manda,

Being friends with someone who (according to your husband) gave him oral and had tried to (successfully?) cheat with other people’s husbands (according to her?) is a little over the top.

It’s good of you to still be her friend. But let me tell you, sometimes when people have a reputation or have actually done something over the top, they can’t deal with it.

Let’s say she did that with your husband and you believe it happened. She can’t deal with it.

Let’s say she did nothing wrong and your husband is talking out of his azz and you believe him. She can’t deal with it.

She could barely handle that you, the Stage 4 cancer victim, beneficently forgave her. But now that you are a hard broiled cancer survivor she really can’t handle it.

Tell her that you’re not going to apologize for believing your husband. And that you hope she conducts herself like a lady in the future.

You don’t need that kind of drama in your life! Believe me, there are PLENTY of worthy people to be friends with who wouldn’t give other people’s husbands a thought on their worst days.

Best,

Inky